Tips for rebuilding your life.... "Growth demands a temporary surrender of security" Gail Sheehy.... |
Passive-Aggressive Helping Hand |
Get to know yourself both emotionally and spiritually.... Spend time alone finding out what you want and need from yourself, others and life....."When you don't know what you want, you often end up where you don't want to be" Bob Greene... Set achievable goals (do not overwhelm yourself) Set Boundaries!!! Do not allow people to mistreat you..... Build a "quality" life NOT a "quantity" life... quantity lives cause you to look outside yourself for happiness.... Take your time - building both your life and your relationships...there is no hurry... Face your fears. They usually aren't as bad as you thought anyway. Plan for the future, learn from the past, but stay in the present moment. Keep a gratitude journal.. write in it everyday because everyday you have so much to be grateful for...... Read spiritual and self-affirming material daily. Write down all of the things that you like about yourself. Take time each day to notice the world around you (it's awesome) Do not beat yourself up for your mistakes - everyone makes them - learn from them...... Take responsibility for your own happiness Create new traditions Feel your feelings - do not push them away - it doesn't work Do not lapse into victimhood....it is your life...create a great one!! Help someone Find balance in all things Write down everything that is important to you Write down everything that you enjoy doing If you find yourself attracted to a person out of pity or for what you can do for them...STOP...that is a red flag.... Stay away from people that try to manipulate, control or use you... If you find yourself always doing things their way, in their time frame and are continually making excuses for their behavior, know that this is not a healthy relationship... Accept yourself.......... Understand that "bad moments" are just that... bad moments. Everyone has them and it does not mean that you are back at square one. Accept it as it occurs and see how quickly it goes away...... Find what brings you closest to God and/or your spirit... What makes you smile, what makes you happy that you are alive... For me it was nature; early morning walks, birds singing, the sound of the wind rustling through the trees.. Listen to yourself and trust yourself....Do not make excuses for how you feel, or your decisions...do what is right for you.... "Nothing can bring you peace but yourself" Ralph Waldo Emerson...... |
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